Steve and I have been married for 25 years now, and I still haven't learned not to ask him what he's thinking when he's been silent for ages. He usually give me some sort of answer that boils down to "nothing, dear." And of course, I don't buy that. My brain is always thinking something. and it just seems reasonable that his is too.

But maybe not. I just read an article titled What Your Husband Won't Tell You written by Ben Schrank, the author of a book called "Love is a Canoe," and it was not only quite revealing -- but it made me laugh.

And I read a few sections to Steve, who admitted that the guy is telling the truth!

So you might want to give it a quick read. And then let me know whether or not this article "speaks" to you...

Here's a quick tidbit:



Here's a link to the book: Love is a Canoe

Yep, I don't even ask any more. :-)

WB is so quiet, it's difficult just trying to talk to him. The only time he's talkative is if he's get excited about some geocaching puzzle, or nature trail, or trip. Asking questions usually results in replied grunts. So like yonuh, I've given up trying to carry on a conversation with the man. But he has so many good qualities, I overlook the quietness. His brother is quieter than he is. Hubby's parents were quiet, too. His mom was a school teacher; his dad did landscaping. Both were nice but very quiet.

It's always a mistake to think a person's facial expression reveals their thoughts accurately.

My partner has a narrow face with sharper features and deep set large blue eyes. If he's not smiling, he looks "hard". He has had to tell his children (when they were younger) not to mistaken his natural facial expression for how much he cares about them.

What compensates it, is his voice tends to be softer, gentler sounding than most men's voices. It's not a baritone/bass but more a tenor. Believe me, it's a very useful natural voice for a guy to have, especially when dealing with a broad range of people and cultures.

When he speaks, his voice timbre adds a lot of natural grace and cadence. And not surprisingly, he's had management jobs in his former career.

I know I tend to look too serious or even angry, when really I'm puzzled when I'm listening intently.