Well, I've never married either. I met my partner when I was 31. (I'm 50 now.) We've been together since.

My first marriage was at age 20. That lasted 14 years. We divorced. I remarried at age 39. The second marriage is fine. Like Chatty, I like being married. But I have seen unions, which totally destroyed life.

There are a lot of positives 'n negatives to both, IMO. I've seen
late marriage {meaning getting married later in life} totally
destroy a person. And I've seen it bring much joy. So I guess
it's anybody's guess. It's a gamble, either way. IMO!

I was too young at 26. I didn't even want the legal binding, but it was important to him.

Now, 197 years later with the same idiot, the piece of paper means nothing. Having the state's blessing is irrelevant.

meredith, I'm laughing at your comment. You're a hoot.

I have a friend who says people shouldn't be allowed to marry until they're 30 because you are finally beginning to figure yourself and others out at that age. It seems like the 20-somethings are catching on. While some still marry in their early 20s, many are waiting. I think it's smart. But every now and then, there's a couple who are meant to be together and I believe those marriages will last forever, no matter what age they tie the know - but I'm a pollyanna.

I married when I was 25 years. I think I was too young for marriage. But now I am thinking that I was wrong. Now, I am enjoying my life with my life partner.

AlexaVEga,
Welcome to BWS. I married at 20 years old. The marriage lasted
14 years. I'm now happily married and have been for a couple
decades. I'd bet many people fall in love way too young!

Hi AlexaVega,

Welcome to our forum, we're delighted you have visited and hope you will become a regular.

I married the first time at 21 and still in college. It was 1973 and the height of the free love era.

I think I knew it was a mistake at the time, but I wanted to live with that man, and I knew my parents would never allow it unless we were married. My father had once told me that if I EVER didn't come home at night, I didn't need to come home ever again.

So we decided to get married to make our parents happy.

The first inkling I had that it was a mistake was at the alter. The minister was going through the vows, and he said the phrase "til death do you part." I stood there and my brain was whirling. It went something like this: "'Til death. Damn, that's a long time... I don't think I can agree to that.

BUT there are 200 people behind me here in the church, who have given us presents, and who have come to the wedding. If I back out now, it will be so embarrassing.

Yeah. But TIL DEATH. All I really want to do is LIVE with him.


So on the spot I made a secret pact with myself that I would mentally modify the vows to "as long as it's good."

Ten years and two kids later, I was still good with it, but I found out he was cheating on me, and we went to counseling.

I told him that I could forgive him and we could stay married if he would agree to give up his lover and not cheat again. He told me he could not do that.

So there was no choice, but to divorce.

Five years later, on the verge of turning 36, I married again. That was the correct decision, and Steve and I have been happily married for 22 years now. He adopted my kids after their birth father died, and things are "all good" now.

I really think we are too young in our 20s to marry for life. BUT our hormones sure are raging at that time...

I married too young too, I just turned 18 and he was 21. We had 5 good years together before he passed away. We had one son by our union he was born 3 years into our marriage.

I remarried 2 1/2 years later, we were made for one another staying married for 14 years and having another son, my second husband passed away our 14th year together.

Here's the thing. Don't think age is a factor for these reasons.
My adoptive mom and dad married when she was 18 [they dated for 3 years] and he was 27. They celebrated their 60th Wedding Anniversary before dad went to be with the Lord. I had a friend
who didn't marry for the 1st time until she was age 63; it cost her, her life-savings and a terrible ending to an otherwise
beautiful existance. Marriage is a gamble, no matter how you look at it. Sometimes you're lucky. Sometimes you're not!